10 Signs You’re in a Fake Relationship

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Love might be something you want to believe in, but it doesn’t always exist in reality. Whether you’re dating, married, or living with someone, these 10 signs that you’re in a fake relationship can help you determine if your partner actually cares about you or if they just care about themselves and their own needs.

The sooner you know, the better your chances of getting out before any serious harm is done to you or your wallet.

1) Do you have to be nice all the time?

Being nice is important, but it’s not an accurate representation of what love really is. In fact, if you’re always giving your partner everything they want just to be with them, that’s not love—that’s caving to unhealthy demands. The point of being in a relationship should be mutual respect, equality and personal growth. So before you get yourself into another fake relationship, ask yourself: Is he (or she) willing to give back as much as he takes?

2) Are there issues that always come up?

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We’re all human and we all have problems, but if something comes up every time you get together with your partner, it might be worth talking about and getting it out in the open. Are they willing to work through it? If they don’t seem interested in fixing things, you may want to reconsider things.

3) Is there any real connection with your partner?

If you feel like you’re both just putting on an act, it could be time to check if what you have is actually love. Not everyone who claims they love their partner feels genuine when they say it. If your partner doesn’t seem all that interested in getting to know you on a deeper level and only seems invested on an emotional level, ask yourself if there might be some fake love going on here. If so, consider ending things for your own sake.

4) Is it different from what was initially advertised?

Was your partner’s persona or behavior different from what you expected after moving in together? For example, did he have more friends than you thought there would be, or did she spend much less time with her family? If so, that could be an indication that his or her needs for companionship don’t match yours. Be honest with yourself about your reasons for being concerned and communicate openly with your partner. If it’s not a deal-breaker, you may both find new ways to get your social needs met. But if it is something that can’t be ignored, you might want to give serious consideration to whether or not you can fulfill each other’s social needs within your relationship.

5) Are they really present?

If you feel like your partner is just going through the motions of being in a relationship, it might be time to reevaluate. People often get into relationships as an escape from something else, or for validation—maybe they’re trying to fill a void that should be filled with friends or family instead.

6) Are you avoiding conflict?

If you’re in a relationship with someone who is truly committed to you, there will be conflict and arguments. This isn’t an indication that you aren’t supposed to be together—it’s proof that you are . If both of you are mature enough to see past petty arguments and view them as opportunities for growth, then you have found yourself one hell of a partner.

7) Have you said yes when you really want to say no?

One of the biggest signs you’re involved with someone who doesn’t really love you is when you start saying yes all of the time. If you find yourself agreeing to things that you really don’t want to do, then it might be because your significant other is more concerned about his or her feelings than yours.

8) Does your partner make promises but never fulfill them?

Promises can say a lot about your relationship. If you have to ask for something repeatedly and your partner never follows through, that’s not great. It means they may be making promises they don’t plan on keeping—or doesn’t actually care enough to keep. That shouldn’t be happening if you’re in love! If your partner keeps promising you things but failing to deliver, it might mean that he or she is faking their love for you or maybe doesn’t really care enough to follow through with what they’ve promised. When someone says I promise, there’s no ambiguity; it should mean he or she will do everything possible to fulfill that promise.

9) Do they care more about themselves than anyone else, even their own family members?

If they care more about themselves than anyone else, then they are not truly capable of loving someone else. If you find yourself worrying more about what they are doing and who they are with than your own interests, it’s time to question whether you have entered into a fake relationship.

10) Do they get angry and blame you for their problems when they are the ones who create them?

If someone’s having trouble, they should speak with you about it. They shouldn’t lash out and try to place blame on you when they are the ones who created their own problems. If your partner is doing things like that and more, it might be time to reevaluate whether or not he/she is actually capable of love.

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